{"id":27057,"date":"2023-02-15t06:59:54","date_gmt":"2023-02-15t06:59:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dev.planetforward.com\/2023\/02\/15\/essay-learning-about-trust-for-every-beings-benefit\/"},"modified":"2023-02-22t01:47:47","modified_gmt":"2023-02-22t01:47:47","slug":"trust-community-planet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"\/\/www.getitdoneaz.com\/story\/trust-community-planet\/","title":{"rendered":"essay | learning about trust for every being’s benefit"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
my parents grew up in a place that didn\u2019t want them or anyone that looked like them. they were raised by parents who contended with that hypervisibility daily. everyone looked for opportunity, finding some while also finding lots of hurt. my grandparents grew up with little money \u2013 farming, fleeing from political conflict, crossing oceans, hoping for safety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
i grew up embodying these legacies, learning to take as much of what\u2019s given because you never know when the safety around you will crumble away. to watch out for myself and my people and always be aware. to be skeptical and cautious and prepare for the worst. while i believe that people are intrinsically good, i also carry practices of not trusting those around me. these lessons are rooted in experience, resulting in constant precautions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
my family home has weathered break-ins and my father\u2019s car was recently stolen a few streets from our home. i\u2019ve been harangued on the street for seemingly no reason (was it because of who i am? what i look like?), questioned about where i or my family are from or what my \u201cheritage\u201d is seemingly a billion times, made to feel small and incompetent simply because i didn\u2019t look like anyone else present or like anyone who had been present before. in the name of protection, i was raised with a scarcity mindset, as well as my forebears’ belief in the american dream. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
this past fall, i had the incredible opportunity and privilege to study in the south pacific. one of the professors, josiane, is a tahitian ethnohistorian, teacher, author, botanist, linguist, and wonderfully kind person. in discussing culture and community in the french polynesian islands, she said, \u201cyou can\u2019t trust someone who doesn\u2019t trust anyone.\u201d other similar maxims exist \u2013 trust people and they will become trustworthy. over the last few years away from home, i\u2019ve learned about more worlds than the childhood worldview i grew up with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
i\u2019ve worked hard to assume the best intentions and motivations, love all people, have empathy, and be generous with second, or more, chances. but in the rigid, individualistic cultures prevalent in the u.s., i’ve struggled with the balance of giving the benefit of the doubt while also still remaining safe. spending time in french polynesia, i was exposed to a different, more trusting lifestyle. i began to understand how these community values can be one of the most important ways to tackle climate change. <\/p>\n\n\n